Kink & Kettle: An Introduction

This project has been percolating in the back of my mind for a few months now. I’ve envisioned it in multiple formats: as a podcast, as a YouTube series, but being me, I always come back to the written word. And as I sit here at my desk, three days in to a cough and a sore throat that won’t quit, I know that I made the right choice. So much of my sex work revolves around my voice; I need to give it time to rest, too, while I pursue other creative outlets.

The biggest roadblock to my writing has always been the fear of having too much audacity. What right do I have to say the things I want to say? What makes me someone worth listening to? Why would anyone want to read what I have to write?

And then I remembered. People speak over sex workers all the time like they know what’s best for us. I read so many bad takes on kink, sexuality, relationships, and media—and I always find myself lambasting these pieces in long text conversations with my friends. But I can afford to be a little bolder, a little louder. I can afford to take up more space. Because the more I think about it, there is something even more powerful than the fear of being seen, and that is the desire for recognition. And thus, Kink & Kettle was born.